Hearing and Listening Are Not Necessarily the Same

As big as my ears are, you would think I would be able to hear everything I am listening to.

I like to think I am hearing what I am listening to but I have so many illustrations that prove otherwise. I’m not sure what it is, but I am working on it with the help of the Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage.

It was on a Friday and I was very busy trying to get things done for the weekend. Some in our domicile can multitask and then the other can hardly do one thing at a time.

I’m not quite sure how my wife does it, but she can do half a dozen things at the same time and get them all done perfectly. It is like one of those jugglers at the circus who can keep half a dozen balls in the air at the same time.

Not me. I can’t even keep one ball in the air at the same time, let alone half a dozen.

I was busy trying to get ready for the weekend when the wife came in and said, “Can we borrow your truck on Monday?”

I grunted and nodded my head in the affirmative.

“We need to move some furniture to a storage unit.”

Now, in those two sentences she used the word “we” but I heard the word “I.”

I am okay with her borrowing my truck and doing whatever kind of business she needs to do. A marriage works that way. One has a truck and the other borrows said truck.

I should have thought something was up, but you know how it is with us men. We do not think unless backed into a corner and we cannot do anything else. All through the weekend when I saw my wife, she would look at me and smile and nod her head. I smiled and nodded my head back at her. After all, isn’t that what a good relationship is all about? Smiling and nodding your head at each other.

As I recall, it was a rather pleasant weekend and then it was over.

Early on Monday morning my wife came into the living room where I was watching TV and drinking my morning cup of coffee. I can’t start any day without my coffee. Whoever invented coffee should actually get a Nobel Peace prize.

My wife came in and looked at me and said, “Are we ready to go?” Then she smiled and nodded her head in my direction.

At the time, I had no idea whatsoever of what she was talking about. Where were we going to go? I had no plans for the morning. It was my one morning to chill out and catch up on my resting.

“You know,” she said with a big smile all over her face. “We are going to borrow your truck and move some furniture to a storage unit.”

“We,” I said very quizzically. “Who is the we? And what are we going to do?”

Then she explained to me that on the past Friday I had agreed with her that we would use my truck and move some furniture to a storage unit. Now, for the life of me I did not remember that. All I remember was the word “I.” All things being equal, I assumed she was asking if she and somebody else could borrow my truck and then she and somebody else would move some furniture to a storage unit.

My failure was I did not think to ask who that somebody else was. I had no idea that that somebody else was me.

If you want to have an argument with your wife, think twice about it and then forget about it. Even when you can prove she is wrong, and I never can, she is always right. The best thing to do is to go along so that you can get along.

So, “we” borrowed my truck and then “we” moved some furniture to a storage unit. It took us all morning and not being in the best shape of my life, I was kinda wore out. I never worked so hard in my life that I could remember. All I did that morning was nod my head and smile until we were finished.

It was about noontime when we finished and when we got into the truck she said to me, “Goodness, it’s lunchtime and I haven’t prepared anything for lunch. Do you suppose we could go out for lunch?”

To this day, I wonder if that wasn’t the plan all along. “We” would borrow my truck and “we” would move furniture and then “we” would go out to lunch. That’s where the “we” stopped.

As we finished our lunch the waitress brought the bill and the “we” changed to “me.”

Driving home from the diner my wife sighed very deeply and said, “We sure had a wonderful morning didn’t we?”

I nodded and smiled and kept driving.

Musing along the way I could not help but think that sometimes listening and hearing are two different things.

I believe Solomon understood this very well when he wrote, “A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels” (Proverbs 1:5).

I may be hearing what my wife is saying, but I may not be listening to what she is saying. The not listening is what really gets you into trouble.

Dr. James L. Snyder is pastor of the Family of God Fellowship, 1471 Pine Road, Ocala, FL 34472. He lives with his wife in Silver Springs Shores. Call him at 352-687-4240 or e-mail jamessnyder2@att.net. The church web site is http://www.whatafellowship.com.

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Why I Choose Feminism

From a young age I learned the importance in not only standing up for myself, but in standing up for others. I was brought into the world by a single teenaged mom who found herself in one abusive relationship after another. I’ve seen what happens when someone has so much fear surrounding them that it silences them and I always told myself “that will never be me”

For myself, my mom, my sisters, my friends, the girl sitting at the bar alone crying, the girl on the street being harassed, I choose to have a voice. I’ve learned that you can’t wait for someone else to take action or to stand up for what’s right, because people often disappoint you.

I’ve seen a lot of women sharing why “they don’t need feminism” and one thing I have to say to these women is this; Just because you don’t need it, doesn’t mean that someone else doesn’t. Just because you have a voice that you choose not to use, doesn’t mean that someone who doesn’t have a voice doesn’t need one.

There are hundreds of thousands of millions of women who don’t have the rights we do. There are women who are mutilated, raped, tortured, and killed every single day and there’s nothing they can do about it. But if you think that is a reason to sit and be quiet and stop, then you are wrong. Do you think these women want life to be that way for them? Or do you think that they wish they could put a stop to it, that someone would help them? I choose the latter.

I use my voice daily, if not for myself for someone else who needs it. FEMINISM IS NOT A SELFISH AGENDA. If you need it, it’s there. If you choose to ignore it, it’s still there. The changes that are being protested now will not affect me in a devastating way if they go through, but that doesn’t mean that they won’t affect other women to that extent.

I’m tired of hearing women even act like feminism is something to be against. If you choose not to use your voice, that’s fine. But if you have a problem with other women using their voice just because you personally do not need it, that’s just selfish. I think we as women would get a lot further together, supporting each other, and standing up for all of our rights whether it is loudly or silently.

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Are You Willing to Do What It Takes?

What a beautiful week! I had the privilege of taking my sacred circle members to do aerial yoga for our quarterly off-site event! It was such a meaningful experience and I still can’t believe all of the parallels with being a business owner! Like letting go and taking one step at a time, that you can put your hands down and touch the ground at any time and be grounded again, the courage in community – where you can look over and see someone else doing it and gain the courage you need yourself to do the same, and the BIG one – that you’re safe when you let go AND can even enjoy it! Here is a picture of us doing chandelier pose, which is a lot like dancer in yoga except upside down. How cool right?! I also discovered doing something that physically gets you out of your comfort zone is huge for doing the same in business.

Yesterday I enjoyed at day at the spa with girlfriends at La Costa here in San Diego. Most of you will know it as Deepak Chopra’s center. His center is there along with a fabulous hotel and spa. This is one of my favourite spots to rejuvenate, as you can use the entire spa facility for the day after your treatment. It has a beautiful pool, waterfall shower, steam, sauna and hot tub. It’s a little piece of heaven and I highly suggest you treat yourself to something similar soon! Treating yourself helps to raise your vibration. You are deserving of goodness! In the evening I attended a profound movie screening in Hollywood with another dear friend – I love that my first screening is for a documentary. An impactful look into the alarming statistic of how many homeless kids there are in LA and what we can do about it. More to come on this later.

Today I want to ask you a tough question – are you willing to do what it takes to have the success you’re wanting in your business? AND what the heck does that even mean anyway? Read on for more on this and how to align yourself with what you’re really wanting.

So… are you willing to do what it takes to grow your business to the level you’re wanting?

I remember a past mentor asking me this over and over again. That voice is still engrained in my head. Are you willing to do what it takes? This was a great question because it made me stop and think. Well, who are we kidding, I didn’t need to stop and think about this… I was a wholehearted yes right away!! It did help me define what this meant though.

The thing is, what this meant to me at that time and what it means to me now have changed significantly. At first it meant hustle and only hustle. Do whatever it takes to make things work. Put in a ton of time and make the business the priority always. Never stop. It didn’t matter if I was tired, burned out, and if relationships were unraveling around me, the focus must me the business. AND for goodness sake, do not EVER and I repeat EVER use your kids as an excuse for stopping.

Noted, and executed.

Well, what kind of existence is that? It sounds exhausting right? Well it was. I realized a couple of years ago, that all I was doing was eating, breathing and sleeping my business. I took the question to heart, as I can be pretty black and white sometimes.

It dawned on me that I didn’t really have my priorities straight. I did get married and have kids for a reason, right?! I was so focuses on being of service in my business, that I missed it at home. This led to a complete reassessment, some rebellious behaviour In terms of the coaching industry and a BREAK from it all. I continued to work with the clients I had and kept it low key from there. I focused on giving and receiving love at home and all around me. It was heavenly.

I studied the course in miracles intently and had some massive shifts around the ego and our true selves. I discovered what true inner peace is.

SO… that’s all great, but how does this look in business today?

Well, whenever I get in this “do what it takes” mode I can see it’s coming from fear and ego. When I approach my clients from this place it doesn’t work. It’s too harsh.

What does work is this:

*aligning myself with the best version of me and making decisions from this place (this is where self-care comes in)

*exercising a strong faith muscle where I believe and know FULLY that the universe (for me it’s God, the holy spirit and some pretty rad arc angels) is always showing me more and more people to help and how to be of service AND that I’m never, ever alone

*financial goals are secondary to being of service

*creating a life I love with the people I love, in a way that works for me

*having the support in pace in both my business and personal life so that I can be the person I need to be

*persevering and not taking no (in terms of my vision) for an answer and knowing without a doubt there is ALWAYS a way to make things happen

*AND last but not least, HUSTLE! This is where the “willingness to do what it takes” comes into effect in an empowered way! We must be willing to do what we need to do in order to bring all of the wonderful opportunities we are creating into the physical form (to fruition). It will not happen without inspired action. The shift in perspective I’ve had around this though is just this. It is inspired action. It doesn’t feel like work because I’m coming from a place of trust and love first, and not fear. It’s exciting to bring opportunities to fruition and see them though. It involves “hustle” as I call it, as you have to keep taking action until it’s complete. You have to pick up the phone repeatedly, meet with people, etc. and do whatever else is required. You essentially need to BE who you need to be in order to bring the opportunities to fruition. That means stepping out of your comfort zone, and doing things differently and being WILLING to do this. The willingness really means being willing to move through uncomfortable feelings so that you can be in alignment with what you’re really wanting.

The biggest difference is that when you’re in the place I outlined above, you are not coming from fear. It’s not a struggle. The way I approached this before was coming from fear. Afraid I wasn’t spending enough time and really deep down if I’m being honest, that it wasn’t going to actually happen. The irony though is that even though I was putting so much into it before and “willing’ to do whatever it took, it started happening on a much deeper level once I shifted to this new perspective. Where opportunities to serve manifest without struggle, and hustle serves an inspired purpose of bringing them to fruition.

This is where the magic happens xo

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Tardiness: An Increasing Problem in Schools

Attendance is one of the ways children show they can meet their obligations. In many cases, a child’s attendance depends on his/her parents’ ability to help him/her be on time. Parents can teach their children organizational techniques that will help them get out of the house faster, such as packing their bags and laying out their clothes the night before school.

But parents who drive their children must also remember to be punctual and responsible. After all, you are the primary role model for your kids. Definitely, you have to show your kids that you are actually doing what are you saying. Meaning, you practice what you preach.

The increase in school tardiness is most disturbing. Schools considered this a significant problem that affects school performance. Students depend on the structure of the day. They know where they have to be and when to be in school. When students are repeatedly tardy, these routines are disrupted.

Part of the child’s education is learning to be responsible. The school teaches children how to meet expectations. Learning responsibility in school is a precursor to functioning in the working world. But it is not the sole duty of the school. Discipline starts at home. Even if it is a real challenge, but the bottom line is how parents respond to the negative behavior of their children especially in terms of tardiness. They might get used to it.

Arriving late to school can also mean that students miss out on activities designed to build connections with their peers, potentially impacting their social interactions and creating a greater sense of alienation from their classmates. Punishment or positive reinforcement? So, how can teachers tackle the issue?

Instructional time lost due to tardiness is likely to significantly affect the capacity of the student to meet rigorous academic standards. If teachers respond to the educational needs of late students by reallocating regular class time, then other students are adversely affected and classroom instruction is slowed by this disruption.

With tardy students entering the school day at abnormal times and potentially missing a large number of cumulative instructional hours, teachers must divert their attention away from regular teaching time and towards remediation.

Tardiness in schools, if left unchecked, can create serious systemic problems. Indiscipline will also increase. Administrators must lead by example. This would encourage more students to be punctual. Recognizing and rewarding students for punctuality would also be useful.

The tardy policy must be communicated to everyone and enforced methodically. All classes should have time to complete their syllabi.

When parents focus on punctuality, students learn that not coming to a meeting or event on time is disrespectful of other people’s time and that they miss out on important information. It’s a priority of which many high school students are acutely aware.

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10 Essential Investor Tips For Successful Investing

Trading and investing into the financial markets has never been more popular. More and more people are starting to see the benefits of taking a little time to, first invest in themselves through a trading and investing education, but also using that knowledge on the financial markets.

Whilst traders may take quicker positions and investor will most likely be holding positions for much longer, perhaps months or even years. So, if you fancy investing into the financial markets successfully, and profit from companies you already know about like Google, Facebook or Microsoft, then these are the ten essential things that an investor must do and know before they start. Let’s take a look…

1. What are your goals?

It sounds simple but many people start investing into a trillion dollar market without any type of plan which, let’s face it, is essentially a gamble. Whilst it can be very simple to invest profitably for the long-term you must define your goals as this will align your expectations correctly, so you don’t kick yourself in the teeth if you don’t hit a million dollars in one day. For example, knowing whether you are investing for the next five or twenty-five years can make a huge difference to how you decide to invest.

2. Start early for compound interest

The single biggest reason to the success of most billionaires is the power of ‘compound interest’. Even Albert Einstein regarded this as the ‘eighth wonder of the world’. It basically means that your money makes you money as all the gains you make you put back into an investment so it compounds and builds over time. Sounds good right? It definitely is! The earlier you start the better but no matter how old you are it’s never too late to start but imperative that you do actually start!

3. Every little helps

No matter how little or how big you can invest, it is well worthwhile investing on a regular basis. It sounds so simple but most people don’t see the point in investing just $10 per month. However, if you look to the future by the time you’re very old that amounts to a lot especially if you parked it into some good investments over the years. Of course, most people have a ‘spend today and save tomorrow’ mentality and that’s the trap folks. Save and invest regularly to reap the rewards in the long run – you’ll be glad you did.

4. Diversify

It’s imperative to spread your capital across a wide range of investments to reduce your risk and increase potential returns over the long-term. Whilst some investments are doing poorly some others may be doing great, thereby balancing it out. However, if you’re fully invested into just one thing then it’s either 100% right or wrong. There are thousands of markets across currencies, stocks, commodities and indices so the opportunity is there.

5. Educate yourself

By far the most important tip. You must educate yourself and learn your craft. After all if you’re investing your hard-earned capital it makes sense to do your homework. Even if you read all the articles here and watched all the videos you’ll be doing far better than the majority of investing wannabes who simply give away their money to the markets.

6. Have practical expectations

Of course, we all want that million dollar investment and for many it will come at some point. But you can’t plan for that, if it happens great if not then you still need a plan to survive and to reach your goals as discussed in the first tip. Remember it’s the journey that’s the most beautiful part and what you do on a daily basis that makes the difference.

7. But don’t limit yourself

It’s important one must remain conservative in deciding which investment to take. However, that shouldn’t limit you to just what you know. Be creative and find opportunities no matter how uncomfortable they may be. After all if it was that comfortable everyone would be doing it. Be adventurous in finding opportunities but be conservative in deciding which ones to take.

8. Manage your risk

Successful investing is all about managing risk. If you have $1,000 to invest then there’s no point in putting all of that on just one investment. You’re basically saying it has a 100% success rate… which of course is highly unlikely. If you follow the steps above, like making sure you diversify, then you’ll be on the right path.

9. Review constantly

A very simple step to achieving more from what you are already doing is to review your investments constantly. However, this does not mean to look at your profit and loss of a five-year investment every single day – you’ll never make it to the fifth year as markets move up and down. But it’s important to review what investments have worked and have not worked. Concentrate on doing more of the stuff that has worked and find out where you’re going wrong with the stuff that hasn’t.

10. Have fun!

Sounds simple but most people forget that are best work comes from when we enjoy the process. Whilst investing is a serious process you are allowed to enjoy it too. In fact the buzz of finding an opportunity, researching it, investing into it and then seeing the result is exciting in itself.

There you have it ten essential tips for successful investing.

Now, the most important part is to get educated so visit http://www.traderprophets.com to get started. Good luck!

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